To cherish Loneliness.

Loneliness:o

So since this is like my online journal, I’m going to journal.

Let me spew the bitter sweet construction that is gurgling in my mind and kind of heading to my heart in tricks that are otherwise known as contemplation.

Relax; I’m not going to call out anyone and rehash by gones in a dog-eat-dog world, or reveal my girly sob story that I know you all might or might not be curious about.

I’m sure a study somewhere from some Ivy League university supports my angle anyhow. Who knows maybe all the deranged people in the world and history and thus world history would have been helped by this online blogging thing. And please help restrain and in fact refrain yourself from construing that I am in away deranged or on the verge of being so; I mean I’m doing the right thing and blogging yo! :)

Dear online Blog,

Let’s just get to the rational here.

Wikipedia says that Loneliness *don’t give me that face* is a complex and usually unpleasant emotional response to isolation or lack of companionship. It typically includes anxious feelings about a lack or connection or communication with other beings, both in the present and extending into the future.

Like! Get a load of this Wikipedia guy! No wonder they don’t let us refer to him in the essays and papers we write. That’s right Wikipedia; you are unauthoritative; especially right now because my head was thinking something else.

Real description:  Loneliness is what shows you that internally, that compass is a bit wayward. Loneliness is the sign that your inner city needs some fundamental repair. It is when the inner system needs a lot of rebooting. Loneliness is the “time out” signal. The time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself and that folks is life’s cruelest irony. Loneliness is the time to grow. Loneliness is the call to reach out to other people and not just crave it yourself, for therein shall that craving be satisfied.

I mean it is not about the people being there or not. The two possibilities exist: either we are alone in the Universe or we are not. Both are equally terrifying. Here we are with neighbors and classmates and workmates and family and all these people, and all loneliness achieves is the fact that we feel misunderstood, unappreciated and invisible in these seas of people.

Like why do we have to be this lonely? What’s the point of it all? Millions of people in this world, all of them yearning, looking to others to satisfy them, yet isolating themselves. Why? Was the earth put here just to nourish human loneliness?

Inwardly there’s all this potential in hope and making a difference and changing the world. All you have ever wanted was to reach out and touch another human being not just with your hands but with your heart. Such a noble aspiration; yet all this disappointment of life usually warps it in the end.

I realize that being lonely isn’t a bad thing or something to be ashamed of. It is natural. It is necessary. What I’m saying is, loneliness quickly shifts the focus to” me” and that is its problem. 

How I am appreciated and cherished and adored and loved and obsessed over- I mean apart from these things we are lonely right? *Girls can I get a hallelujah*

What if the point of loneliness is to tell us that we can get a little closure by being about somebody else and in fact everybody else?

That’s all I’m saying really.

Be lonely and learn your way around it; make a map of it, sit with it but we can’t again use another person as a scratching post for our own unfulfilled yearnings. Reach out to people to literally reach out to people; in that way you are reaching out to yourself.

That’s why being alone never felt right; sometimes it feels good but it never feels right.

When you are lonely it’s the best time to grow and be a blessing to someone else to be a blessing to yourself. Be lonely and stronger because of it in this way.

"There are times when solitude is better than society, and silence is wiser than speech. We should be better Christians if we were more alone, waiting upon God, and gathering through meditation on His Word spiritual strength for labor in his service. We ought to muse upon the things of God, because we thus get the real nutriment out of them.....Why is it that some Christians, although they hear many sermons, make but slow advances in the divine life? Because they neglect their closets, and do not thoughtfully meditate on God's word. They love the wheat, but they do not grind it; they would have the corn, but they will not go forth into the fields to gather it; the fruit hangs upon the tree, but they will not pluck it; the water flows at their feet but they will not stoop to drink it. From such folly deliver us, O Lord......."

CHARLES HADDON SPURGEON

Cherish your loneliness.